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What is sexual abuse?

What is sexual abuse?

The sexual abuse of children and adolescents is any sexual activity performed at or in front of a child or adolescent. The perpetrators abuse their position of power or authority to satisfy their own needs at the expense of the girl or boy. 

Abuse also exists if the girl or boy does not explicitly reject the sexual activity. This is because, due to the asymmetry of power, they are unable to competently consent to such an act and so are never a match for adults. This is an important fact that must be emphatically stressed, since perpetrators are notorious for alleging that the child themselves wanted it. 

While the concept of "sexual abuse" has been controversial for some time, it has been in general use in Germany among the public at large, in the media and among those affected. Synonyms are “sexual violence“ or “sexualised violence“ against children or minors. 

Where does sexual abuse begin?

It begins whenever sexual acts take place - for instance fondling of genitals, masturbating in front of a child, french kissing, showing porn films - and where needs are satisfied at a child's expense. For instance, applying cream to a child’s genitals as their diapers are changed can be a sexual activity if doing so serves to gratify the diapering person. If it is done for purely child-care reasons, it is not abuse.

In many cases it is hard to tell, because the adult’s motives are hard to ascertain or prove. The child’s feelings do not necessarily provide any clues: when a baby who is having cream applied shows discomfort, this no proof of abuse, while conversely, a child seen to feel pleasure does not rule out that abuse is taking place. Nevertheless, the feelings of girls and boys can be important signs suggestive of sexual abuse.

Where does sexual abuse begin? This question is frequently asked by people who are anxious that they might be committing abuse without realising it. These doubts are dispelled if you remember one thing: There is no such thing as accidental abuse! After all, every perpetrator knows whether or not he or she abuses a child to satisfy his or her needs. 

Where is sexual abuse most likely to occur?

Most sexual abuse occurs between a child and perpetrator who know each other, i.e. in the social environment of the children and adolescents. This includes family friends and acquaintances, neighbours and the family itself. However, sexual abuse can also happen to girls and boys in educational, sports and leisure time settings. Only few perpetrators are actually strangers for the children and minors affected. While sexual abuse by actual strangers does take place, for instance on the internet, these, too, groom the girls and boys, so that they at least appear familiar to them.  

What does ritualised violence mean?

Ritualised violence is the systematic use in a group of severe physical, psychological and sexual violence. Frequently, an ideology (such as satanism, fascim) is invoked to justify it. There are links to organised crime (mainly forced prostitution, child pornography) and codes of silence. Members who want to leave are threatened, intimidated and persecuted. Some groups (e.g. those practising satanic cults) include families across several generations. From an early age, children are accustomed to the perpetrators, cult and ideology. They are subjected to conditioning and programming to ensure their functioning and obedience (“mind control”). 

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